When I got hit by a truck with my horse

Destination doesn’t need to be a place, rather a new way of seeing.

It doesn’t matter what everyone else has done to you, what matter is what you are doing to yourself.

I kind of woke up. Its up to me to decide how I want to feel. I have lived a big part of my adult life letting other people’s choices, behaviors, decisions dictate my life. Instead of trying to get all of this love from an external sources, I need to turn the love inward. Self-love is not about feeling good or being selfish, It’s not about having great success at work or a good hair day.  Its about believing deep in the core of who you are and that one is worth love, real love.

Love is not something that we get by doing, it’s something that we inherently serve by being. The love what one needs doesn’t come from the outside, the love we need first and foremost is our own. Instead of trying to be what everyone wants you to be, Its up to you to be what you want to be.

To find what I was looking for, one doesn’t really have to travel that far, but sometimes distance gives you the space you need for answers. Sometimes you have to fall of the horse serveral times before landing.

We; me and my daughter were sitting at a gas station by the high way near Verona in Italy. The first vacation we had together just the two of us. We had bought flight tickets to Venice and rented a car and we could go where ever we would want to go, an adventure.

I asked my daugther: ”Would you like to see the famous Romeo and Juliet balcony – hear about the story of the tragic love story, separation of the lovers and a potion that induces a deathlike sleep- or shall we go horseback riding to the mountains?”

You know, some horses will test you, some will teach you and some will bring the best out of you. We would be just happy not to fall and started driving to the Dolomite.

From the moment we arrived to COFLARI RANCH, it felt like home, like we would have been a part of family instead of guests.

”Do you have any other advice?” asked the girl. ”Don’t measure how valuable you are by the way you are treated.” said the horse.

Long time ago, I was horseback riding in the mountains in the northern part of Spain and got hit by a truck with my horse. It was a moment in life were I lost my courage to ride again. I failed as a rider and the horse paid the price.

But, Its good to encourage also to fail. The definition of failing becomes not about the outcome, but about not trying.

For me it was now time to ride in nature again. The first horse was closer to a donkey, but for someone who would be on a horse for the first time, not the worst choice. Luckily the next day I got a real horse. 🙂

Actually I’m all about fashion, so for me riding is also about how you look on the horse. Before arriving to the horse ranch we stopped by a sport shop and got all what was needed. Sometimes how you look on the horse makes you feel more like a rider. When you are more confident, you are more calm and I think the horse can sense that.

The rooms and bathrooms were clean, coysy and comfortable with a view and fresh mountain air.

When I travel I have always with me my Kallary crossbody bag which is designed by my dear friend Artist Johanna Oras.  Visit: https://kallarydesign.com/collections

Life is about moments. Don’t wait for them, create them.

Life is also about eating. We had full board at Colfari Ranch and we ate like horses. Taste full, country food at it best from morning till night.

During those days horses gave me then wings I lack.

Horses teach you more about collaboration than dominance. I wish people could learn faster.

It was the first time for my daughter to ride in the nature. She is born for a saddle. This might get expensive.. 😉

She asked me; ”Äiti, I don’t know the way through the forest.”  I asked her: ”Do you see your next step?” and she said yes. -”Then just take that”: I said.

Most of the time we look at goal, the future. We look at the end of the way and we feel overwhelmed instead of just taking that one step at the time.  There is no need to worry, just go forward, because it will come one step at the time. Sometimes there is no need to worry about how far something is, its worth to focus on right now.

Horses don’t trust words, they trust actions. And they don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.

Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason why it will. Well, skiing is also possible next to the ranch, but not with out snow. The Ranch offers riding also during winter. Can’t wait to experience that. Down hill skiing is my favorite sport.

I have celiac disease. They even got me gluten free pasta. In Italy happy life is about small things and pasta.

After the accident I knew I can’t go back and make a brand new start, but I could start now and make a brand new ending.

I’ve been told that the best therapist has fur and four legs. I’ve also heard that forgiveness is the best part of love in any relationship. It takes a strong person to say I’m sorry, but even a stronger person to forgive.

Winston Churchill once said: ”There is something about outside of the horse that is good for the inside of the man.”

My daughter also galloped for the very first time. So proud of her.

The area is famous also of its apples. There were thousands of apple trees every where. What a great way to start the morning with a fresh apple juicy.

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A horse is full of nobility without conceit, friendship without envy, beauty without vanity. A willing servant, but never a slave.

I spent some of the best days of my life at the Dolomite with 100 horses. I might live in a house, but my home is in a stable.. -or wait a moment; at the Ranch! 😉

Vielen dank für alles Nancy & Massimo. Wir kommen bald wieder. <3

Thank you for everything and see you soon again.

<3, Tua & Tii


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